Before I was married I heard horror stories about Mother-in-Laws. This use to scare me.
And then I met Chris' Mom and I fell in love. She is an amazing woman that I have so much to learn from. So being around her isn't ever something I dread. In fact I LOVE it when we get to sneak away to Odessa for a visit or when they come in town. But I know that my relationship and feelings toward my Mother-in-Law is rare.
But this post isn't about my Mother-in-Law specifically, but about Mother-in-Laws in general.
I was sharing with my accountability group last week that I have noticed when I am around my parents and Chris' parents that I can get a little stressed when it comes to Karis. It has NOTHING to do with them, and everything to do with me.
Some might call it controlling. I prefer in control. ;)
Anyway, whatever you call it, I don't like it. And I want to change.
Well Jen gave me the best advice (there's a reason she's the director of MOPS at Houston's First):
I hesitated to even share this because I didn't want you to think that I have a bad relationship with my Mother-in-Law or that I don't like how she is with Karis. It has NOTHING to do with her (or any of my in laws) and everything to do with my controlling tendencies. I shared this with my accountability group because I wanted to work on how I am around really anyone who is loving on Karis. This advice was just too good not to share. I know many people have this same issues-- whether that have a good relationship with their in-laws or not.
This is Karis and her Grammy. I don't know who is more smitten with the other.