This past weekend Chris and I rented a couple of Redbox Movies while he was sick on the couch. One of those was a movie called "How Do You Know?" The movie was so-so, but there was a moment that made me think. And I thought of you all and felt like I needed to share it.
Don't you love how we think about our blog friends throughout our lives? Seriously, there are moments that happen and I think to myself, "I just have to tell them." I just love y'all.
Get to the point Becky. The part that stuck out to me...
In the movie, there was a guy, who happens to be in crisis himself, asks a girl who is in the middle of a
crisis: "What's your problem, your challenge?"
Do you ever feel like you ask that questions to yourself multiple times a day?
I loved her honest response:
Do you ever feel like other must be pretending?
That maybe you are pretending?
Or maybe you feel so afraid that what you want so much,
that maybe you don't have what it takes for that?
And if we were girlfriends and you were sitting on my couch after a long day and you said that to me, this would (more than likely) be what I'd say...
1. If others seem to have it all together, trust me, they are pretending.
No one does. No one. And my greatest advice to you is to not let their pretense influence you. I have literally stopped reading blogs and checking Facebook statuses of people who act like this. Because what happens? I get discouraged. I feel defeated. I feel like a failure. They keep right on with their life (however, unrealistic it may be). But I am the one that suffers (and it's my choice to suffer, not theirs). So take your eyes off of those that seem perfect and surround yourself with genuine people who desire to continue on with the other questions.
2. Are YOU pretending? Well, only you can answer that. But I'd recommend you ask yourself that question: "Am I giving a false perception about my life?" Am I playing the part of who I think I should be instead of who I really am? Am I afraid for people to see the real me? If you answered yes to any of those questions then I'd recommend sharing this honest confession with some trusted friends and ask them to help you take the mask off. Your life might change and that will be a hard process, but you will sleep and breath easier... and laugh a whole lot more and your walk with the Lord will be so much sweeter!
And now for the hardest answer of all...
3. There comes a time when every person feels a yearning for something and doubts that they can pull it off. (If you are the rare 1% of society that thinks you can do anything, as a Christian I would suggests submitting your ability to the Lord, I honestly mean that it total love.) For the rest of us, can I be the first to tell you that you can do what you are meant to do. Why do I believe that? It's not some self-help mantra, it's truth (please give yourself the gift of reading every word below):