This is why he won...

May 21, 2009

Can't wait till his album comes out! So talented!

Hi and thanks for stopping by! I'm Becky Kiser. I'm a wife, mom to 3 girls, writer, speaker, and founder of Sacred Holidays. I love Jesus and desire to see women follow Him more fully as we go hard after Him and what He has called us to.

I’m not crying, you’re crying. Actually I’m not crying this year, but as you can see Chan isn’t so happy about her sisters leaving her behind today. 😍😂🤣
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Moriah is starting Kinder. She was so brave (and so was I). She rode ahead with Karis and her friends this morning. And didn’t look back until she grabbed my hand tight to walk in. And then pulled me down for one last hug before we walked out. She’s so ready for this. I’m a bit heartbroken because she really has been the sweetest, little love to have at home and having her gone is going to leave the biggest void. But there are amazing things ahead for her... and me. We will both be more than fine.
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Karis is headed to second grade! She gets to switch teachers in the middle of the day and is so excited to have bigger chairs at her desk this year. She has grown up so much, but man I’m gonna miss my summer big girl buddy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To all the mamas sad this season to send kids off, let yourself feel sad about it. Change isn’t easy for them or us. Yes, we all know they will be fine and so will we, but it’s ok to be sad. I always wear my big sunglasses the first week of school to cover up tears to keep a brave face. (PS, @cjkiser shared a post yesterday about how even the dads might feel sad, too.)
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To all the mamas who are leaping and smiling so big this back-to-school season, you keep on loving it. Enjoy and celebrate your freedom, and theirs. Independence is good for all of us, so cheers to you!!! (I posted my back-to-school pic too... I’ll let you guess which camp I’m in this year... hint: it’s different than the last two years.)

Finding friends as an adult is prob one of the hardest things. Growing up and in college, life was set up to help you find community. But as adults, well it’s just so complicated.
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But complicated isn’t the same as impossible.
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We have to open ourselves up. We have to let people in—both literally and figuratively. We have to be willing to get hurt... again. We have to be willing to say yes when all we want to do is stay in, put on our comfiest sweats and binge our fave show on @netflix. We have to risk by trusting others with our real self—facades down and vulnerability offered.
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And we have to give it time. That’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about adult friendships. They simply take more time to develop, even the ones that feel like love at first sight. 😉
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Loneliness is something I struggled with for years even though no one would’ve guess from the outside looking in. I had “lots” of friends in real life. Thousands on social media and blog reader friends (back when blogging was a thing). And I was seriously lonely.
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For years I begged God to send me my people. I rushed into friendships hoping they would be the ones. I experienced such hurt and betrayal from friendships. All I wanted were my safe people. The ones who knew when I put up a front, who challenged me simply with their presence, and the ones who made my sides hurt with laughter. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Give it time. Keep asking God if this is you. And when it comes, soak it all in.
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And if you live in the Woodlands, TX and are looking for some people to know you and love you just as you are, well come to our house on Wednesday nights for House Church with @churchproject. (DM me for details.)

I love to work. I used to be so ashamed to admit that. I felt that saying I love working was also saying that I didn’t love my kids. This is a lie.
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If you are struggling between the tension of two (or even ten loves), that’s OK. Saying you really love one doesn’t mean you don’t love the other. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This shame mindset we have, especially as women has got to change as a culture. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the bigger issue is in our heads. I honestly am OK with knowing that there are many people who think I should work less, because there are also many people who think I should work more. The voices of others don’t shame me nearly as much as my own voice.
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I tell myself I should be able to be like all the other stay at home moms because I am a stay at home mom, and also like all the other CEOs because I am that too, and also just like all the other authors and speakers. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But I can’t. And you can’t. We can’t be all the things, we can only be our thing. And I’m finding there is a lot more joy (and subsequently more “success”) in all those categories when I let God do what He wants instead of trying to be who I think I should be.
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So when we choose our thing that means we have to let go of expectations. And one of those things for me is choosing to not be a stay at home mom full time any more. Next year this little love will be going to preschool 4 days a week for 5 hours/day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For the first time in 8 years I won’t have a little one by my side.
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I’m a little bit heartbroken over this. Because with each step towards something it’s a step away from something else. None of us can do it all. But we do all have the same 24 hours and we can chase those as hard as we can. So I’m gonna chase my dreams for those 20 hours a week during the day and in all the fringe hours when everyone is asleep. And in all the times in between I’ll be chasing this one, her big sisters, and my hot hubs around.
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👇🏼 What about you? Have you had to make a choice—big or small—so you could chase something that mattered?

Anyone else working on some things? My list is long and there aren’t enough hours in the day. But God. Let’s do this! Let’s punch today in the face.
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👊🏼 Tag a friend and tell them you see them and believe in what they are doing and that you want them to punch today in the face.

This week I have so much writing to do for so many FREEbies for y’all this fall... but tonight, while the girls are at Camp Grammy, I am binging Suits (because I’m for all things royal and this show has a real princess and a solid storyline), drinking decaf, and eating sweets from Australia (thanks @therealjkiser and @lexifuss 😍).
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Tell me your fave shows to binge and your fave sweet treat. ❤️ Also, am I the first one to realize that Amazon Prime has so many shows and movies for free? #cantstopwontstop 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Kids growing up is stupid. Independence is stupid. I take back everything I ever said about wanting them to be strong, independent, brave women who live wild adventures. Instead may they be co-dependent forever and always. #ihatecamp #whereismybaby #imkidding #imhalfkidding 😭😂🤣😉

Cousins week has kept me from doing a single bit of work, I have missed every single update on social media from you all, my sink (and surrounding counters) is constantly full of dirty dishes I swear I just washed, my washer and dryer haven’t stopped running, we haven’t had bedtimes, and I have received very strange looks and comments every where we go with 5 girls 8 and younger in tow... and I wouldn’t trade a single second of it. We’ve had the very best time with my nieces here from NYC and we still have two days to go! ❤️😍🙌🏼
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What was your fave memory in the summer as a kid?
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I think my faves were spending a week at my grandparents houses and riding bikes to the pool with my bro (with money to spend on concessions—hello #fundip 😍, I miss you and my 8-year-old metabolism 😂).

Ladies, if you live within driving distance to #TheWoodlands then please come with me to @theReviveGathering this Thursday at 7pm at Rob Fleming Pavilion. This is one of my fave women’s gatherings ever—full of awesome chat time, prayer, worship, teaching and so much more. It’s not like any other women’s gathering I’ve ever been to. And this time I’m one of the ladies that will be sharing from the stage some, so I’d especially love to have some friends with me.
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Grab a blanket or outdoor chair, some shorts, messy bun, bottle of water, and let’s face the heat for an awesome ladies night under the stars (after the sun sets).
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If summer has been overwhelming, this will be the breath of fresh air you need. If summer has been awesome, this will be a perfect opp to celebrate that.
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Questions? Just ask! And be sure to follow @TheReviveGathering for more details. And comment or PM me if you hope to come!!! 😘

Love this post so much from @jenniesallen: Do the work in front of you well. Don’t wait for a magical passion to drop into your life. I found my passions by doing a lot of things I wasn’t passionate about. And my character was built in the search–there never seems to be a perfect destination. Even when you find and do what you love, it turns out it is still just a lot of work. What work have you done in your life that you weren't thrilled about but ended up preparing you better than you could have imagined?

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