Have you ever noticed how far too many married people seem to complain about their spouses and repeatedly say how hard marriage is?
Or ever noticed how most people always make having kids sound like the worst thing ever and like you've walked yourself into a grenade testing center?
I felt like I started getting Mommy warnings as soon as I got engaged. Seriously, I had people at our wedding rehearsal say to me, "Well when you have your babies..." Then it gets worse when your tummy inflates to the size of a watermelon. Total strangers feel like they need to save you from what you are about to walk into. And then once you have that little bundle of joy everyone again feels like since you got yourself into this mess, maybe they can give you some tips to soften the blow.
I have to be honest, most people make being a parent sound horrible.
It was the same way when I was single, married people love to mock marriage and their spouses so much that it, just being honest, sounded like a horrible idea.
And now with Karis, I feel like so often I hear, "Oh just you wait, it only gets worse..." or "Oh now you really are going to get it..." or "Uh-oh, she's walking..."
Listen, I know Mommyhood is hard. And I know marriage is hard.
But every new change and responsibility is hard.
Anything that is worth it, it is hard.
Typically if something comes easy, it's not going to do much for you.
In the mean time, as you are in it. As you are doing the hard work, I believe, and I think scripture backs this up, that we should find joy in it all.
James 1:3-4 says:
We all have a hard thing that is worth it: a job, a calling, a weight loss battle, an addiction, a friendship, a relationship, a past, a marriage, a desire for marriage, a child... whatever.
But we have a choice: count it joy or count it as a burden.
So what about you? Do you struggle to find joy in your trials? A trial is simple something that tries us, that tests us. It doesn't have to be heavy or sad.