Top Tips for Making Your Dream a Reality

Are you considering starting a new business? Maybe a wild dream of a business plan, maybe joining a network marketing company, maybe starting your own ministry, or maybe something else totally new! Kinda scary, right? Exciting, but scary. 

Or maybe you've already started and you felt like you need a do over of sorts. Yeah? 

OK, I feel 100% confident this will help you.

These are are some of the things I share with my clients when we first start meeting. Obviously we get way more detailed and specific because it's one-on-one. BUT I didn't want to hold some all of the info secret, I wanted you to get started on your dream! 

I have to warn you, I shoot it to you straight. You may not like me at all during most of this, and that's OK. I don't sugar coat things with my clients, and I won't sugar coat it with you. Sometimes it's easier to hear the things we really need to hear from someone who isn't our bestie, our parents, our spouse, or our counselor even. Sometimes it needs to be a total stranger to kick our butts into action... or into quitting.

But you'll have to keep reading to find out more. 

So proud of you! Let me know what your biggest takeaway is for you and/or your dream. 

Playing It Safe v. Doing It Scared

I struggle with this on a daily, sometimes hourly, basis--

Do I play it safe or do it scared? 

Since college, when people would ask me what I want to do when I grow up my answer is always the same: I want to make a significant impact on my world.

(I used to say the world instead of my world. But as I'm learning to redefine success, I really want to make a significant impact on my world-- the people my life impacts. I'll let God define the number of lives that impact hits. My job is just to be willing to make the impact.) 

 

Where I struggle with this is I'm insecure. 

I'm insecure that I'll try and totally bomb. 

I'm insecure that I'll put myself out there and it will totally suck. 

I'm insecure that I've heard God lead a certain way and maybe no one else will want to come that way too. 

I'm scared I'll make a fool out of myself. 

I'm scared I've heard God wrong. 

I'm really scared that to do some of the things I feel called to that the yes makes me a crappy wife or mom. 

I'm scared that by working I'm neglecting the community around me in my every day life. 

I'm scared because there are about 1 billion people more qualified. 

 

I'm scared and this fear keeps me quiet. Keeps me playing it safe. So I don't put myself out there. 

This summer I was faced with those fears and totally confronted that I was hiding.

Hiding behind motherhood. Hiding behind Sacred Holidays.

Hiding.

I was letting circumstances and my own opinions of myself disqualify me before I even really tried. 

So I took some big steps in the right direction. I started doing more things that terrified me. I started sharing with others the dreams I thought were only lofty ideas. I took a lot more risks, both personally and professionally. 

You know what? I'm not feeling any more brave today than I did six months ago. Honestly, I feel more terrified. 

My husband sent me this Tim Ferris podcast with Brene Brown today and I was reminded of this quote she has said several times before: 

 

"If I'm not a little bit nauseous when I'm done, I probably didn't show up like I should've showed up."

-Brene Brown

 

Today as I try to finish up writing the Lent study, I'm doing it scared. 

In the coming weeks as I start to fill up my 2017 speaking calendar, I'm doing in scared.

In the coming months as I put together a book proposal for my first book (Not Enough: A Discovery of How Not Awesome We Are... But God. The title is clearly still in the works but this is the gist of the book.) for my dream literary agent, I'm doing it scared. 

In the next year as I no longer just dream but make efforts to building a sweet, fun, true community in my neighborhood filled with people I don't yet know, I'm doing it scared. 

 

I'm learning that peace is a facade, at least the way I've defined it. 

I became a Christian at 16 and well meaning Christians told me then, "If you don't have peace about something, then maybe Jesus isn't in it. He is the Prince of Peace after all." I've run from so many things because they didn't feel peaceful. 

I'm calling that whole idea crap today. 

Peace isn't the absence of fear. Peace is confidence that even in the fear Jesus is enough and totally worth it. 

I feel certain Abraham was scared when he was walking up Mount Moriah to sacrifice his son Isaac. (Gen 22)

I feel certain as Moses raised his rod to part the Red Sea he was scared beyond belief. (Exodus 14)

I feel certain Esther was scared when she went before the King. (Esther 5)

I'm sure Rahab was scared hiding the spies. (Joshua 6)

I feel confident that David was scared when his son died. (2 Samuel 12)

We know that Jesus was in anguish in the Garden praying before His death. (Luke 22)

We know Saul, who we know as Paul, felt something like fear when Jesus spoke to Him. (Acts 9)

 

This idea that fear can't coincide with faith is a lie. We need to be done with it. 

This fear has kept me living a half hearted life for too long. 

This fear keeps us in our Christians bubbles, serving only other Christians, because it's safest there. 

This fear keeps us home, spending more time with our remote than real life humans. 

This fear keeps us spending more money than our bank accounts have. 

This fear keeps us putting too many filters over our picture and cropping out the less than appealing parts of our lives on social media. 

This fear keeps us saying "I'm blessed" or "God is good" or "I'm good! You?" whenever people ask us how we are are, believing the lie that they can't handle how we really are. 

Let's all stop it. Time is short. Our lives are but a vapor (James 4:14). 

 

What is your thing? Do it scared. 

Not sure yet what your thing is? That's OK. Do the next thing scared. Ask for help. Share some dreams with others. Start serving somewhere. Put yourself out there today. Stop waiting for what could be or what's next to make it better. Now, today, do it scared. 

I would LOVE to hear from you and learn what you are doing scared. How about tag me (@beckykiser) when you post a picture and use the hashtag #doitscared. 

Let's do this! 


A great anthem song to this idea is Francesca Battistelli's song "If We're Honest":

 

You can watch Brene's Ted Talk on Vulnerability here: 

Not Cancer + Not OK

I first heard "Not cancer!" about a month ago.

It's been a whirlwind since then-- more scares, some reliefs, and even more unknowns.

And I'm not OK.

I should be OK because I don't have cancer! But I'm not OK. I'm struggling and I feel so guilty about that. People say to me all the time, "Well at least it's not cancer!" or "At least it's treatable." So I feel like I should feel better. But I don't. 

I shared with you when we didn't know if it was cancer or not and my faith was strong. Fear still present but my faith was solid.

So I want to share with you today when it's not so solid because we need to all hear from one another even when things aren't all "God is amazing!!!!!!!" We need to hear from people when what we know is true about God is solid in our minds, but our hearts are struggling to connect to the truths.

(Don't worry, I'm not wallowing in a pit of self-pity. Words are often hard to convey, so please don't read this as melodramatic. I want to be honest with you all in the good and the not so awesome.)

I remember that afternoon after the doctor's appointment going to one of our favorite burger places and writing this on the wall:

It was unreal. Not cancer. I was crazy giddy!

It didn't get old the next day either. Or every little moment of each day following. It would hit me, "not cancer" and I'd be reminded all over again how different that day would've felt had we heard: "You have leukemia."

After a week the adrenaline started to wear off and I've felt a little stuck since then. It's been an unending rollercoaster with my health.  Had a second opinion follow up at MD Anderson a couple weeks after. That was sobering walking in there. More ideas from doctors. Then more waiting. Then more unknowns. My heart was and is exhausted.

In the midst of all this was life. Marriage, mommy to 3 young girls, friend, neighbor, etc. I have been mostly sucking at all my roles in life. Oh and during all of this, we were launching Advent with Sacred Holidays. No big deal. Just our biggest and busiest month of the year and all I can think in my head is: "Do I have Cancer? Only Jesus. Lord help me. Replace fear with faith. Your will. Your way. You are enough. Oh crap. Jesus be enough.... (rinse and repeat)."

Chris and I are doing good. I'm not dying. Sacred Holidays is blowing up awesome-- so many lives are a part of this, so many women in prison are joining us. 

I should be over joyed, right?

Yet, my heart has been exhausted, finally catching up to my body that's been off for a few months now.

I'm struggling in the unknown. My head and my heart both know all the things-- about God having a plan, that He can heal me, that He is using this, that this can be a good reminder to slow down, etc. I hear the answers in my head and I've heard them from so many as I share my funk with them. 

Here's what I'm learning: It's easier to trust God when there is a sense of control or absolutely no control, for me at least. I had no other hope but Jesus a month ago. There was nothing I could do to manipulate or control my numbers on those tests. Nothing. I'm excellent at getting things done, and I could do NOTHING. So trusting God, even with something as scary as leukemia, was easier than this wait of "we just don't know yet but we know these numbers tell us something is going on." The wait, regardless of what it is we are waiting for isn't fun for any of us!

Oh how I wish it was as easy as: sleep more, work out more, drink more water, etc. It's not.

We all find ourselves here often, don't we?

I don't have a pretty way to wrap this up. No answers for you.

Other than my heart and my head still know fully that Jesus is enough for all I'm going through, and whatever it is you are carrying. I also know He will use this for His glory and my good. Those things I find such confidence in!

When I was waiting to hear, "Cancer or Not Cancer," I could not stop reading and praying Isaiah 43. I made this print out and pasted it all over my house. You can get it by clicking the link below. I've customized it for what I was going through, but you can still use it, or make your own. I pray you are as encouraged as I have been reading what He says is true about Himself, us, and our situations of unknown or waiting. 

I've been excited about all the studies we've put out with Sacred Holidays, but I'm especially for this years-- He Is: The Attributes of God. This whole study focuses on a different attribute of God each day, and I so need it.

I would love for you to join me! Click the image below to preview the studies.

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